well,thats a pleasant surprise i must say,3 comments on here and several more made to me in private. thankyou all for the positive feedback. maybe it was beginners luck, we will see.
someone asked me once WHY i care for mum,that surprised me. why wouldnt i? she's my mum and i love her,it's not her fault she is old,ill,forgetful. we take good health,the ability to move freely as and when we want,for granted sometimes. we all need to remember,old age catches up with us all. that,of course if we are lucky enough to live to ripe old age.many do not. my father died when he was just 53,massive heart attack. i was 18,just started working at Byford's ironmongers in Holt,as very junior sales assistant. the shop i would work at for the next 19 years,5 as manager. mum was not left well off,we had to sell our bungalow at Hindolvestone,and move to terraced house at Melton Constable,which used to be an important railway village 3 miles away. money was very tight,i wasnt earning a lot and mum had to go back to work,something she'd not done for over 20 years. she was a carer,lol or rather a "home help" as they were called in those days. and worked bloody hard too.she retired at 63. bearing in mind she had a serious back condition caused by car accident when i was 11.
When Byfords was forced to close ,due to the deaths of the main directors i stayed in retail,first in another shop,which i loathed,then i sold tools and builders equipment direct to workers on building sites,from a rather well stocked van. happy days. that company was sold,and i started work as a lorry driver for a bread company,then went into the warehouse packing the orders,and that's where i ruined my back. note.if you get backache,with a dead sensation in your leg,GO TO THE BLOODY DOCTORS.i didnt. consequently,when the poor damaged disc did rupture,it was already too late. i had a discectomy to remove it,3 more discs were found to be damaged,working career over. then 6 or so years ago,i started getting pins and needles in my hands,cut long story short,i have MS. now,just to prove breaking mirrors does bring bad luck,lol,ive got arthritis in my knees. im not putting this in for sympathy,most of my friends know. but all this ill health means that being a carer can be interesting at times.
So,why don't i just put mum in care home? she will be well looked after,so it has been said by no doubt well meaning people. Well,she worked bloody hard,after dad died,so we had reasonable life,i think the least i can do, is do for her,what she has ALWAYS done for me. and that is care. which i will do for as long as i posibly can. take care all.