Friday, 26 December 2008

lives cut short. what MS can do.

IN MEMORY OF A BRAVE YOUNG LADY.




EMMA LOUISE HORWOOD,who fell asleep 11th November,2008,aged 21.

Thanks to Emmas mum Wendy for allowing me the privilege to show Emma as she was before MS ravaged her young body. A lovely,vibrant happy young lady.Wemdys only daughter.Whose life should have been one filled with laughter,and fun. Then along came MS.how and why Emma contracted it is still a mystery,as it is with everyone who is diagnosed with it.For some,like myself it can cause us the misery of pain,of fatigue,of dizzyness,weakness in limbs,loss of vision, it can cause embarassment of speech difficultys,of a loss of bladder control,and other complaints of a personal nature. but we survive.in fact for many Ms is often hardly noticed.every so often it "flares up",we get pain,problems,then it subsides. but sometimes it turns vicious.as happened to poor emma.She was just 17 when she was diagnosed,and because she was so young the disease was much more aggressive,in the 4 years she had left,that beautiful young lady was transformed.




It attacked her central nervous system,leaving emma needing a wheelchair,unable to walk. still enjoying her cigs though.lol.and her boyfriends love never faltered in all the time she was ill.






As the disease took hold,gradually Emma became confined to her bed,and eventually she was to become completely paralised,fed through a tube into her stomach,unable to talk,but she never lost that lovely smile.









I know from speaking to Wendy how this girl fought,chest infection after chest infection,( the main cause of death in MS sufferers) caused her to weaken.Emma had made a living will,after having to be resuscitated in hospital she determined she would never want that to happen again.She wanted to die at home.surrounded by her possessions,and her mothers,grandmothers,and boyfriends love. She made it to her 21st birthday.Wendy gave her a lovely day to remember. i still remember the birthday cake,we had 2 lots sent us by Wendy.bless you love.best cake ive ever eaten.made by one of Emmas carers.





Soon after her 21st,Emma started to get even more chest infections,anti-biotics didn't have any effect.As her mum said,it was as though she had decided it was time. She died on the 11th,November at around 1am. so why have i featured Emma so much? these photos were sent to me by her grieving mother wendy,who has become a great and lovely friend.she has helped me with my own demons,my fear of what Ms can,and perhaps will,do to me.her devotion to Emma has been a joy to see,and my heart goes out to you Wendy love. Emma deserves our admiration.NOT PITY.i dont think she ever would want pity.but she deserves to be remembered.




Also affected by the death of a beloved son is my second mom Lucy, What is left of a whole new life.her son Alan also died from complications caused by an extremely aggressive form of the disease.I had planned on adding his photos as well,but Lucy love,i am too close to alans age.i can't somehow bring myself to do it. so instead perhaps those of you who don't read her journal will go and visit.and read back.she has done her own tribute and remembrance of the son she loved.and lost so cruelly. No mother should lose their child.whatever the age of that child.in lucys case alan was in his 40s. in Wendys case,Emma was her only child. both mothers.both grieve.so should we.




Those of you reading this, many of your friends,relatives,loved ones,may have MS.many people have it with little or no side effects,only being found out during an autopsy after death. To put it in perspective,there are thought to be around 180,000 sufferers of MS in the UK alone,with maybe half as many again who have it but have no symptoms.Emma and Alan were so unlucky to have a type that took over and ravaged their nervous systems. May they rest in peace,and may a cure be found soon. It may be your son or daughter one day who needs it. I make no apologies for writing this entry.it is done out of my respect and admiration of Emma and my deep fondness for here mother Wendy.As i have for Lucy,who is always there for me when i need her. Thanks to both of you for sharing your memories and your love for your children.




MAY EMMA AND ALAN BOTH HAVE FOUND PEACE AND FREEDOM FROM PAIN.God bless them both.take care all.




17 comments:

Yasmin said...

Beautiful post Mort, so upsetting a young girl striken with this terrible illness, but what a strong spirit she had, and a loving family, such a shame.
My prayers go out to her family.


Yasmin
xx

Bucko (a.k.a., Ken) said...

Wonderful post Mort. Such a shame to lose one so young, but so heroic to make it to her 21st birthday. Wishing her peace.

Jan said...

What a lovely tribute to these wonderful young people Mort ,both safe now in the loving arms of Jesus ..love Jan xx

Ally Lifewithally said...

Dear Mort this is so sad ~ such a lovely tribute to a wonderful brave young lady ~ thankyou for sharing her pictures ~ Ally x

Lucy said...

Mort, That rotten, no good disease should not be allowed near a young person like Emma. It destroyed her just as it did Alan. So young, so pretty. Thank you for remembering my son, Alan. He was very close in age to you and that is one reason I kept the last picture I ever took odf him from you and no one will ever see it except maybe his brothers and sister after I am gone and they run across the al;bum I made of his battle with MS. Most people have no idea how cruel it is. I do and that is why I keep telling you, you must use your strength wisely. I can only say thank you Mort for being my friend, and telling a little about Alan. YOU TAKE CARE, MORT. Lucy

LYN said...

this made me cry for personal reasons..I don't want my friends to go like that...
thank you for sharing..it must have been hard...
bless you...

Jenny said...

A lovely tribute Mort. The Mum hasn't just lost a daughter but also the chance of grandkids too, it's so sad.
Jenny <><

jean said...

Beautiful tribute Mort, She was a pretty girl so sad she suffered so much in her short life. I hope and pray that they find a cure for MS soon. You take care, Jean

Rose said...

Mort you created a beautiful tribute to this lovely young lady. I cried reading it. I wish her peace and prayers to her family.

Hugs,Rose

Beth said...

Mort, you brought a tear to my eye, too, and thank you for your lovely tribute to a lovely young lady.

Love, Beth

Claudia's thoughts said...

That was a wonderful post Mort. Another tragic case of MS was a world renowned cellist Jacqueline DuPre. My daughter is a musician and she told me about her. I listen to her CD and the playing is phenominal

http://www.jacquelinedupre.net/jdupre/whoisjdp.htm

Sandra said...

Thank you Mort, for posting this lovely tribute to a brave young woman. I have a couple of friends who are sufferers though they are both closer to my own age, Emma was tragically young.

Love Sandra xx

Lori J said...

Dearest Morton,
Thank-you for sharing this with your journal friends. I can not begin to know the heartache of these disease but only contact was with my first employer who fought it for probably for over 50 years. Dr. Walker was an Optometrist in my home town and I was blessed to have known him. I always thought his English tenacity helped him get through each day....
There was also a very young 22 year old in my town that succumbed to the MS very quickly.
I wish I could remember more specifics but recently I saw a person who has been doing research on this disease who believed he had found a possible cure for MS. I do not know if he was from my country, US or where but I will try to find out.
Thinking of you and Mum and hoping that the New Year will be one of less heartache...but remember there are those who care for you very much and of course the Almighty whose love is insummountable.

Love Alberta LORI

jun said...

Mort beautiful stories like this one about the brave and courageous people with m.s. inspire us all. We each struggle with disabilities. be they physical or mental, situational or environmental.
Some of us live bravely day to day on miracles. These are the ones that teach the rest of us life lessons.
They teach us faith and trust in something outside of ourselves and our own power. For me this is God.
They teach us humility and unselfishness.
God blesses our lives by the priveledge of having known them.

ADB said...

Powerful posting, Morton, the pain speaks from every word. MS is not a high-profile disease, but as you so vividly explain, it wrecks lives. You yourself are testimony to that. All strength to those suffering from MS, and rest in peace those that succumbed.

Jmoqueen said...

That is a lovely entry Morton, so sweet. Thank you for sharing this with us x

Richie said...

I cried reading this post. What a wonderful young woman and how I hate MS.
My darling at least had a life before it hit us. If only medical research could be funded like military research. If you ever see a waisting disease like MS or Motor Neuron destroy some one you love you can think of no greater priority than finding a cure.
Richie