Monday, 31 December 2012

HAPPY NEW YEAR?lets hope so

yes it really is me,lol.last post in march i see.im sorry,but MS and mum,both progressively worse than they were.and i find it so hard now to write about it all.where to begin???
 i had so much trouble getting mum decent carer,the one we had was in and out in under 10 minutes,hardly spoke to her.and one night i put cream on her back and being blunt she smelled unwashed.so i raised hell with office.sent a nice carer out,L,she was in tears nearly.took 2 bowls water,and mum had huge pressure sore the size of a 50 pence piece on her bottomn.no way any decent carer doing there job could have missed that.so nurse was coming in twice a week dressing it.thankfully it cleared up.L is our carer now,mum likes her,and she cares about mum.but she forgets so much.is so much worse than she was this time last year.Dr did put her on tablets to try and help memory loss,but she was so sick.as he said,is it worth it?not fair on her.92 in 3 days time.
as for me,i fall about,i slur my words,right eye has a problem with spatial awareness,swallowing still bad,pain,all worse.back is completely shot to hell.disc crushed,and basically its just pain management.myy garden hasnt been done this year,only kepy tidy.julie is coming in the spring to clean pond out.good friend to me.known her 36 years now.(possibly loved her as long too lol)i get tired so easily now,still have angina attacks too.but tablets are helping.
so there we are,start of a brand new year.2013.will it be good?will i get worse?who can say.do i worry?yes,because of mum.i am not scared for myself. and PLEASE dont feel sorry for me,i am ok,so many worse off than me.just be nice to each other,i wont promise to read blogs or when i will post again,but you are all in my thoughts.Lucy my friend,an inspiration to us all.Herrad you keep a doin gal( this is norfolkese lol) and to you all reading this,a very happy new year to all.tc,see you on Facebook,mort xxxx

14 comments:

jack69 said...

Above all we wish you a better NEW YEAR. So sorry to hear about mum. How sick is that. Even makes me mad. My mum was also bed fast at our home for a few years, I do understand that part, of course we could never understand your position, having not been there. You are always hanging in there. You deserve a lot of credit for that.
Love to you and Mum.
Sherry & Jack

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Wonderful to see a post from you ! We none of us know what the future will bring, but I do wish you a happier New Year. May you be blessed with only good things!

Lucy said...

Mort I do not feel sorry for you but I KNOW how MS works. You have every right to worry about your mums care. As I can see you are wondering how much longer "YOU" can do it and it worries you. I hope and pray as long as you are needed by her. I hope you saw the picture of Alan and his dog on Facebook. Ron made one for each of his siblings and me and his dad. That picture takes some of the awfulness of his last days away. It is on my header on my blog, also. You take care, Mort, as much as possible and see you on Facebook.

mortonlake said...

Lucy i saw.lovely photo,i will catch up sppn on your news,i seem to be able to get on here now.ty to you,Ma,and Jack.good to see you all.tc,xx

mortonlake said...

that gibberish is meant to read SOON and NOT sppn.sighs.darn keyboard on laptop

Connie Higginbotham said...

Wishing and hoping and praying all the best for you and your mum in this new year.

LYN said...

I never feel sorry for you Mort..you are too inspirational for that..a lot of men should take a leaf out your book..you are one of the good uns for sure..my wish for you in the new year is that it be the best it can be for you and Mum xx

Kath said...

I hope 2013 is your best ever.For you are Simply The Best Mort.Take Care God Bless Kath xx

mortonlake said...

so nice of you ladies,thankyou all.

Helen said...

I didn't realize that you Mum had reached that great age. You are a good son Mort. May 2113 be a more pleasant year for both of you.

Ken Riches said...

Wishing you and your mum a better 2013...

mortonlake said...

thanks Ken and Helen.yes 92 tomorrow3rd jan.time flys these days xx

ADB said...

Thanks for keeping us updated with the progression of MS. Hope 2013 will be alright for you, Mort.

Jeanie said...

I've just started keeping check on my friends Blogs again. I have been away from mine for too long also. Facebook has kept me in touch with everyone to a degree.
That is not nice to read about the 'Carer' who neglected your Mum's prsonal hygiene and health. She is not fit to do the job! Gad you have found someone kind and caring. That will give you some relief I'm sure.
I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.
God bless you both.
Jeanie