the above tag was done by connie of ANYWAY.......................... for her friends who had helped her in her recent trouble. i asked if i may snag it, she gave me her permission. so i want you all to do what she wants. pass it on to all your friends. please snag it and use as you will. if you read this you are my friend and deserve it.
many thanks for those who answered my entry on Call for Support a prayer for carrie. a good friend , jane,in my chatroom i use, her daughter carrie recently had lazer eye surgery. which seems to have gone tragically wrong. poor girl is in a lot of pain and distress. neither write journals. yet when i asked you replied. that is friendship. thankyou.
mums visitor came yesterday and stayed 2 hours,they have become good friends, and has given mum someone to talk to. i am grateful to her. I , like many carers don't have much free time. if i am going to be gone out for any length of time i have toorganise the Crossroads caring service, and they send someone to call in and make her a cup of tea etc. or a neibour will help. so, friends are important to me and to other carers. we need you. you keep us sane. to be able to talk.laugh, and to have someone you can moan to,when it gets bad that's friendship.
i have said some of this before. but i realised just lately just how important my "online" friends are. i don't have that many friends outside the web, pam is my best friend,and i do go over to see her every week, but i also have/ had a good friend kev, we been mates over 37 years. i am 5 years older than him, i saved him from being bullied one day, just after my dad died. the aspiring village bully was doing his best to make kevs life a misery when i walked past. now,bear in mind, i was bullied a lot, and i mean a LOT at school.i was quiet, preferred reading to sports, a loner. ( stop saying awwww pam lol) when i left school i joined an electricians for 6 months before deciding i preferred shop work,and was bullied by one electrician there. dear douggy lol he made my life hell. until one day something snapped. he threw a hammer at me and called me ****ing useless tosser. i broke his nose. hardest punch i ever threw in my life. lol after that,and a lot of pain lol he treated me with respect. which is when i realised. bullies are cowards. so, kev being bullied,me going past, and 1 very sorry bully in a hawthorn hedge, because i picked him up and dumped him in it lol. shook kevs hand, and we were mates. and were until last year. he would ring me every week, usually a friday, he got free calls so we would talk for ages. he lives in london, his wife died several years ago. before he moved away we would go everywhere together. happy days kev. i was due to go into hospital last year for a tonsil removed, i didnt know if it was cancerous, i now know that it was my MS causing many of the problems i was getting,but it was a worrying time for me. kevin was supposed to ring the tuesday night after i got home. i sent him txt to say i was out and op had gone ok, and he has never rung me since. why? i have no idea. he told mum i was always on here,pc, and he never knew when to phone. now that is true, but the last time we talked,the week before the op we were chatting for over an hour. i have sent txts, he replied to1 saying would ring the next week, never did. and i just drifted. gave up. no christmas card from him, his sister and mum sent us 1 none from kev. no birthday card. so i gave up. and then yesterday i opened our local paper and in the funeral notices,giving thanks was a notice. his mother,Betty was dead and buried. said after short illness at home, donations given to macmillan nurses so assume she died from cancer, and neither he, nor his sister sue,even let me know betty was dead. i used to stay every weekend,they kept a pub and i would go over on my motorbike another story maybe? and stay. betty was like a second mother to me. i would have liked to have paid my last respects at her funeral.
so, apart from pam,i really don't have many people (any really) i call close friends.apart from you all. my jland friends,and my chatroom friends. and i thank you. for being there when it gets bad and say come on mort another day tomorrow. thankyou. you all deserve that award. every one of you. take care all